I don't even know what to say to her :(

One of my best friends came to me today (we also work together) and shared with me that she is having some pretty serious marital problems. I was in their wedding...and it was only three months ago. She said that she just feels blank and really has no feeling or emotion towards her husband anymore. She wants to throw in the towel and just walk away. The thing keeping her there at this point is his son from a previous marriage whom she has grown incredibly close to and she takes on alot of his care during the times he is with them which is every other week. Her husband works alot. I suggested a ton of things to her and we talked for about an hour but I just feel so terrible for her and really don't know what to say. I guess in some way I feel like I have some sort of magic words that can make everything better for them and they can go on loving each other. But in reality I know that there is really nothing that is going to make things better other than the two of them wanting to put forth the effort to work on their marriage. I am just scared that she is not willing to do that at this point. She seems to have completely disconnected from him and its almost kind of scary the lack of emotion she has. I kind of think she is depressed but she has been to the dr before for this and has been on anxiety meds and I believe she still has them but not 100% sure she is taking them. Its a really difficult topic to discuss because in part I feel that she is just giving up way way too easy and needs to put forth some effort and I in a round about way said something to this affect, I just don't know if she really heard that or is willing to even try. I told her that the only thing she can control at this time is how she responds and how she reacts to his efforts to make things better. Ahhhh....I just wish I could make it all better!!

Sugar and spice and all thats nice

I just spent about 2 hours organizing what I thought was only going to be my spice cabinet. Well one thing led to another and I ended up switching all the spices over to another cabinet. Then had to move the sippy's and bottles over to another cabinet and so on and so on. I feel good that I got about half of the kitchen cabinets re-organized though!! The other half is not too bad. I really need to hit up the dollar store and see what kind of plastic tubs they have so I can organize even more!! Next project needs to be my hallway closet which also has all our medicines/bandaids/toothpaste and everything else on the planet that has no other home right now.
I think I am nixing the idea of making that potato torte tonight and will instead head over to a Mark Kay party and get a pedicure!!

I call Re-Do

So I started a blog mainly for myself several months ago...then did not post to it for some time. And now...I feel guilty for not keeping it up...so instead of dealing with that guilt head on (because it is such a biiiiiig deal) I just said forget it. I want a start fresh. No guilt in having a big gap in time. Its like when you were little and you messed up you could just call re-do and everyone would totally forget that you had messed up previously. So I am officially calling...."RE-DO"
Ahhh...I feel better already. Its amazing what fresh starts can do for a person.
This last weekend we had our annual golf tournament for work. I took the boys out to my mom at the campgounds and they had a really good time out there. Chris came and picked up Cayden and Carson so they could watch him row in the dragonboat races. They really liked that.
Then after the actual golf part of the tourney was over I picked them up and took them home for our high school babysitter "Sam" to watch for a few hours so we could hang out with some of my co-workers. Turns out Tom had a few more beers at the tourney than he probably should have so when I arrived back at the bar he was in prime shape. sigh
So we ended up only staying a couple hours and we were home around 8:00. Sam is so wonderful with the boys, they had so much fun playing guitar hero with her!! Davis was so exhausted from being at the campgrounds all day that he crashed out around 6:30!!
Yesterday I took the boys up to my dad's annual picnic for his company and ate there before heading out to buy the rest of their school supplies.
Cayden got to pick out his new school shoes (Carson already has his) and he picked out ones that are called Zoo York...I had no idea what the brand was but everyone else seems to...I guess that just means I am getting....OLD...blah
Carson also had $80 in Target gift cards to spend...Baby D was kinda grumpy so he did not have the 2 hours he would have liked to have to look at EVERYTHING possible in the store 7 times. He ended up deciding on three different types of nerf guns...this was with a little help(persuasion) by Cayden. They had so much fun with them and Tom joined in with them too...just like I somehow knew he would!!
Tonight is going to be filled with me trying out a new recipe...Melissa D'Arabian the winner from The Next Food Network Star he is the link. I hope it turns out and good as it sounds!!
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/melissa-darabian/potato-bacon-torte-recipe/index.htmland
and this for a side dish...although I am pretty sure Tom will not eat them, Davis and I will!!
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/melissa-darabian/glazed-carrots-recipe/index.html
I will post pictures of it if I remember to take one!!